Experienced married couples agree. Newlywed couples agree. Becoming a happy couple is not easy. It’s necessary to come to the realization that being married is challenging. Everything between you does not automatically fall into place. Figuring out how to be in a close relationship with someone who is a different person than you requires your attention and growing understanding of your partner as well as specific details of how happy relationships are created and continue to grow.
Take it from a husband who has years of experience figuring out what’s involved in making and keeping a happy marriage. The troubles that you are going through as a couple that you are unable to work through, resolve, repair, or heal from are like red flags alerting you to pay attention to these signs NOW. Creating a mutually satisfying marriage is a process of getting stuck and knowing how to get unstuck. Your understanding of what it takes to create and grow a happy marriage is limited. It’s that way for all of us.
So, what do you do when you realize you are stuck in a bad place? What if you have not been able to figure out how to move on? What if the thought of staying in an emotionally hurting relationship is not acceptable? What if your intention is to be happily married, but you’re not experiencing that quality together?
As a professional marriage counselor I can tell you that asking for help with your marriage sooner is better than waiting to get help. I keep learning that if I’m sick (recently, with the flu and upper respiratory infection)but not getting better, my best decision for taking care of myself is to get an appointment with my primary care doctor ASAP. I’ve got to make the call. The medical evaluation and ability to treat me is the doc’s job. Making an appointment to see my doctor is my job.
There it is. Call me (714) 318-1332 so that you can truly begin helping yourself get to a better place in your marriage. I will do my best to help you. Together we can do this.