Caring for a Lawn and a Marriage
At one time our backyard lawn was full of lush green grass that not only looked like it was in good shape but was healthy deep into it’s roots. At first we were attentive to properly watering and fertilizing it. Over time we stopped caring for it, thinking that because we made an initial investment of having the sod professionally installed, it wouldn’t need so much of our care. In the summer we watered it a bit more than during the other months because we knew that it needed it, but It didn’t get fertilized. Not once. Didn’t consider that nourishing the grass was necessary. Mother Nature will take care of it.
As a marriage therapist this scenario reminds me of a condition that our marriage relationships can resemble. We start out with high hopes and great intentions for our relationship. We feel that we have everything that it takes to build a healthy and strong marriage. We anticipate that any challenge can be met with our savvy, smart, and caring relationship. Who doesn’t expect that with everything going for them that their relationship will require minimal attention to coast forward. Without attentively caring for the specific needs of their relationship it’s only a matter of time before either one or both partners experience a gradual dissatisfaction.
Neglecting care of our lawn is like neglecting care of our relationships.
Brown patches replace the green leaves. Dissatisfaction replaces the enjoyment of a healthy and vital marriage.
By specializing in couples therapy I will help you take the steps that will transform your relationship. By helping you give new attention and care to your marriage your relationship can become one that you want more than anything.