Most of the people I know have a lot going on in their lives. Handling it all can be overwhelming. You’re familiar with the image of having your plate so full that you can’t keep the contents from spilling over. Living with long-term stress is like trying to keep your life from going over the edges.
A major way our stressing out gets expressed is in our closest relationships. It’s not likely that you can keep your stress inside without your partner noticing or being affected. The way you handle your stress in your relationship matters. If you make a habit of stressing out by lashing out at your partner, there’s going to be a whole lot of emotional hurt. The inflicted pain triggers a reaction that hurts back. Now the couple is locked into stressing out each other. Things between them go from bad to worse. Sadly, the couple get caught up in an emotional cycle of conflict that doesn’t resolve anything.
Author Richard Rohr is a wise man. “If we do not transform our pain”, he said, “we will most assuredly transmit it.”
I think that one of the most effective ways that we can transform our pain is by participating in individual and/or couple counseling. I specialize in working with men. You’re welcome to find out how the therapy process can help you.